Hey there!

I’m Rowan. I am a Christian, single mom that has been through a lot of the tough stuff many churches don’t address and many Christians are afraid to talk about or just don’t know much about. That’s why I started this blog, to help those struggling with what I have gone through, or still am going through, so you know you aren’t alone. I am protected by a DVPO, so to learn more about me, it is in the secure area of this site to protect myself and my children.

Why I Am Doing This

Like many of you, I’ve been through and am going through some tough stuff. Much of what I have gone through are things that Christians and even churches do not want to address at all or barely skim the surface of. This has left me struggling with so many questions. What do I do? What does the Bible say about this? Who can I talk to for advice without getting judged, blown off, or worse… accused of demonic things, sinning, being punished by God, or failing in one way or another? I want to show others they aren’t alone by sharing my story, offering support, sharing information I have learned. I’m still learning, still struggling, and not everything has had the perfect ending, in fact, so far, none of it has had that happy “look what God did for me” testimony ending. I’m not sure if any of it will, which yes, hurts and is hard. You see all these happy families, you hear all these amazing testimonies, these overnight or immediate healings or answers to prayer and I’m over here wondering what I did so wrong that God seems to be ignoring me. He’s not, I know that but sometimes it’s hard to not feel left behind.

None of this is easy and you do need to be careful who you talk to because not many people like to hear about witchcraft, domestic violence, divorce, or LGBTQ+ issues. That is a huge part of why our country and world are headed the direction they are and also, why I don’t have any of this on any social media, because I would be censored and probably have my account shut down. I’m not doing any of this to spread hate, talk anyone down, these are our kids, family members, and ourselves we’re here for. We don’t hate them, we love them. It’s so painful to read comments regarding many of these issues and the misunderstanding that goes along with it.

I’ve had to hold so much inside for so many years because there weren’t many people I could talk to about any of this and know they really understood. Yes, I have had some amazing support at times, other times I had very little or no support and just had to push through, suck it up, and cry in the shower or the car. So, I am hoping this will

All that being said, please understand, I absolutely am not an expert on anything regarding any of this. All I’m doing is being open, honest, and even making myself vulnerable about my experiences and the things I’ve learned along the way. I’ve learned a lot of painful lessons in the past 16 years. I’ve also had a lot of successes in those years.

Every situation is different. Every state/county/city has different laws. Every city or county has different access to resources. None of this is to be taken or used as legal advice in any way. What worked or didn’t work for me, may or may not work for you. I will link some resources that helped me with my legal questions, but if you need legal advice or assistance, you need to contact a local support advocate or attorney to help you.

The way I see it is there’s always at least one silver lining to every painful thing we go through and that is, you can help support that many more people when they go through the same thing you have. So, that’s why I’m doing this; to help, to show love, and offer support. Even if I just end up helping one person realize they are not alone, that someone out there gets it, this blog did its job. So, I hope this helps you to rise from the storm and work towards achieving the life you and your children deserve.

Rowan